Kesha Bernard watched a struggling mom travel alone with three kids including a crying baby and a fidgety toddler. Instead of seeing nearby passengers lend a compassionate proverbial hand - or at least send her a few compassionate glances - they complained and whined loudly about the children. It was very sad to see adults complain about kids doing something that kids do, which is sometimes uncomfortable to adults.
While flying on an Alaska Airlines flight, Kesha Bernard, a mother of two, offered to help a the mother when two of her three children began crying and screaming prior takeoff. Bernard says the flight boarded at 5:45 a.m. in Seattle, and the airplane was slightly delayed for takeoff due to technical issues. She states that two kids started crying in the back of the fully booked flight.
While all of this is occurring, a flight attendant is supposedly just standing still listening, not doing anything to calm or help the situation. Not that it's her job to do anything, but some human compassion goes a long way. Perhaps get the kid a snack or offer something else like a pillow or blanket.
An older passenger beside Bernard started making comments like, “Obviously, her way of disciplining isn’t working.” Growing frustrated with all the non-helping people around her she put the man in his place with a simple, “She’s probably afraid to do anything … you can’t do anything anymore.”
Many parents will tell you that young children and flying can be a challenging combination, “It takes a village to raise kids.” Well, this 'village' apparently does not subscribe to that adage.
Bernard she waited for others who were closer to offer assistance, Bernard noticed that actually many were "huffing and puffing and mumbling." Bernard mentioned that the woman in front of her toddler started complaining to the mom – who had her hands full with three kids and was doing her best to calm the situation – and even reached behind and grabbed her leg. Soon after, Bernard heard the mother tell the woman, “She’s three I cant believe you just did that.”
That's when Bernard decided enough was enough and took action.
“That really hit me because, as a parent, you can’t do anything in that situation. The mom was trying to do everything she could. It was just people being rude.” “I couldn’t take letting this mother drown back there….(and let me tell you she was being so freaking calm you guys….like i would have already been crying but she was doing so good).” "You guys,” Bernard continues, “this is a full plane … and I sat here for 15 mins waiting on someone closer to this woman to offer her help … because I’m surrounded by caring adults, right? (Wrong.)" Kesha wrote in a now-viral Facebook post.
Bernard got up out of her seat, walked back to the woman's seats, and asked if she needed any help. The woman quickly handed Kesha the youngest child to hold while she tried to deal with her toddler.
As Kesha re-situated herself back into her seat with the baby in her arms, the baby stopped crying and fell fast asleep. The “problem” that everyone was griping about - solved, with just a little kindness and understanding. This world could use a little more compassion, eh?
Shortly after the ordeal, Bernard went to Facebook to post a picture with a detailed description of the whole event, which quickly went viral.
“Be nice and considerate,” she wrote. “If someone needs help for God’s sake HELP THEM. Complaining and mumbling doesn't do a damn thing except make the person that needs help feel worse (words hurt ).”
“You’re telling me Im the only ONE out of a full plane that was willing to help????” she continued. “How we can ignore a human in distress beyond me. Please be kind. Please be considerate. Help one another…it makes everything easier. I promise you wont die.”
Kesha’s post obviously hit home for a lot of people – it has been liked and shared hundreds of thousands of times.
She said she is amazed by all the attention it has gotten but hopes others will take her message to heart.
“I’m surprised that people are surprised by people doing something like that,” she
said. “I didn’t do anything extreme or amazing. It’s crazy that it’s getting this much attention, but I’m happy and humble … to have something light and good in the news.”
If you were on that plane, then would you help a mother struggling with three children? Or would you be the person who complains? Or perhaps be the person who doesn't care either way?